Lightly child, lightly.

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I sat down with myself and let myself feel. I let myself open to the bodily sensations of feeling under qualified, poorly prepared…There was no need to follow a story about the feelings that were there; what I needed was simply to let myself feel them, beyond their names, down into the visceral connection – feel them while not losing touch with the larger spaciousness that I also knew to be there. The error I had initially made – one that is all too easy to make – was attempting to control the impact of my uncomfortable thoughts through bypassing them and replacing them with a feeling of spaciousness and calm. I know it doesn’t work that way; I know that both realities need to be embraced, but sometimes I forget. The only way through is to accept the gift of the moment, however it shows up. If what shows up is inadequacy, or illegitimacy, let it be so. This too. These moments were offering me the opportunity to accept my vulnerability and fragility.

It’s this simple: I am not required to hold it together all the time. 

~ Roger Housden, Dropping the Struggle: Seven Ways to Love the Life You Have 


Notes:

  • Photo: via Your Eyes Blaze Out. In Greek mythology, ravens are associated with Apollo, the god of prophecy. They are said to be a symbol of good luck, and were the god’s messengers in the mortal world. (wiki) (I think it is a Raven!)
  • Prior “Lightly child, lightly” Posts? Connect here.
  • Post Title & Inspiration: Aldous Huxley: “It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them.”

Comments

  1. So, so hard to do…I have a long way to go..

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  2. “It’s this simple: I am not required to hold it together all the time”—what a relief!

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  3. Note to self !!! ☺

    Not sure I’ve ever said it, but your Huxley-inspired posts are among my favorite on this blogosphere. Thanks for that. ❤️

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  4. yes, always embrace the gift of the moment, and no we may not always be at our best at any given moment. that’s human.

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  5. “…the opportunity to accept my vulnerability and fragility.” So very true. Sometimes we got it goin’ on, and sometimes not so much. When I get down on myself, I try to go and stand in front of the mirror and ask myself, ‘Is this the way you would treat any of those whom you love dearly?’ Doesn’t always work, but oftentimes it stops that nasty little troll in his tracks…

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    • Love that approach Lori. Here’s another:

      Picture yourself when you were five. In fact, dig out a photo of little you at that time and tape it to your mirror. How would you treat her, love her, feed her? How would you nurture her if you were the mother of little you? I bet you would protect her fiercely while giving her space to spread her itty-bitty wings. She’d get naps, healthy food, imagination time, and adventures into the wild. If playground bullies hurt her feelings, you’d hug her tears away and give her perspective. When tantrums or meltdowns turned her into a poltergeist, you’d demand a loving time-out in the naughty chair. From this day forward I want you to extend that same compassion to your adult self.”

      – Kris Carr

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  6. Yes. It’s about surrendering.

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  7. Terrible picture. Not crazy about the quote either, but the last line is excellent.

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  8. I think we all forget we are human and vulnerable. Embracing and accepting it all, as it shows up is the answer! Beautiful words 🙏🏻

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  9. Wisdom. Right there.

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  10. nice. had to share this one internally with my company’s mindfulness community!

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