Cranky Old Man

This is a remarkable story and more remarkable poem.  And so fitting for a…Good Sunday morning.


cranky old man“When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in an Australian country town, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.  Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Melbourne. The old man’s sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas editions of magazines around the country and appearing in mags for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.  And this old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this ‘anonymous’ poem winging across the Internet.”  (DK: Apparently, everyone has seen this, but me.)

 ~ Source: anewstartt

Cranky Old Man
What do you see nurses? What do you see?
What are you thinking when you’re looking at me?
A cranky old man, not very wise,
Uncertain of habit, with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles his food and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice, ‘I do wish you’d try!’
Who seems not to notice the things that you do.
And forever is losing a sock or shoe?
Who, resisting or not, lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding, the long day to fill?
Is that what you’re thinking? Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse. You’re not looking at me.
I’ll tell you who I am as I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
I’m a small child of ten, with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters who love one another
A young boy of sixteen with wings on his feet
Dreaming that soon now  a lover he’ll meet.
A groom soon at twenty my heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows that I promised to keep.
At twenty-five, now I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide and a secure happy home.
A man of thirty, my young now grown fast,
Bound to each other with ties that should last.
At forty, my young sons have grown and are gone,
But my woman is beside me to see I don’t mourn.
At fifty, once more, babies play ‘round my knee,
Again, we know children, my loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me. My wife is now dead.
I look at the future. I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing young of their own.
And I think of the years, and the love that I’ve known.
I’m now an old man and nature is cruel.
It’s jest to make old age look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles. Grace and vigour, depart.
There is now a stone where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass, A young man still dwells,
And now and again my battered heart swells.
I remember the joys, I remember the pain.
And I’m loving and living life over again.
I think of the years, all too few, gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people. Open and see.
Not a cranky old man.
Look closer .. See.. Me.

Comments

  1. This is beautiful and so true. How easily we become de-humanised.

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  2. Nope, David, you’re not the only one who hadn’t seen this–I hadn’t either. Have now had a good cry to launch my Sunday…

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    • Well, then, I guess my mission was accomplished. I didn’t want to be standing alone. This poem was sobering and beautiful. Based on W Cannon’s comment below, this poem has been around since 1979. Can’t believe I hadn’t seen it before. Have a great day Lori.

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  3. Make that two others who hadn’t seen this, two others that are sniffling while they type. One who remembers her mother at 76 explaining how shocked she was when she looked in the mirror, for in her heart she was still 25. And one who remembers the indignities some caregivers take when they assume a man’s vacant look suggests a vacant mind.

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    • Yes, I tripped into this post and was so moved by the humanity in it that it made me stop and pause – and ponder how often this must really happen. For the giver and the receiver.

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      • There was a song Bette Midler sang years ago on one of her first albums – “Hello In There” – ‘so if you’re walking on the street sometime/and you should spot a pair of vacant eyes/ don’t you pass them by and stare/as if you didn’t care/ say hello in there – say hello’…I think it happens more times than we may think.

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      • Yes, and it happens and I’m often the one doing the passing by. I’ll check out the song. Thanks for pointing it to me Mimi. Have a good day.

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  4. That’s why they say everything that glitters is not gold. 99% of the time things are not what they seem like that’s why we should try to know the stuff which could only be felt.

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  5. This poem has been around for many years, certainly since 1979 when I began my training! It changes from being a cranky old man to a woman. Whatever.. It is still a very descriptive and thought provoking piece and I still recommend it to nursing students and even the old jaded nurses. Thanks

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  6. Simon Marsh says:

    David: please add me to the list of those who are grateful to you for posting this. Blessed be the nurses who recognised the gift. Thank you – for this and so much more. Simon

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  7. Wow, I hadn’t seen this before either. My son worked in a nursing home for awhile and from what he told me this poem should have been posted on the wall. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Aptly said and heart-touching!! We as humans always ‘not’ look at the person but other things. Thank you for sharing this, David.

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  9. Beautifully said.

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  10. I had not seen this before but it gave me chicken skin. Thank you so much for sharing.

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  11. Had not seen this either. A wonderful reminder to treat everyone with respect and dignity no matter how old.

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  12. onelifethislife says:

    David this was a wonderful and heartwarming post that left me reaching for the Kleenex. Thank you for sharing this moving piece.

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  13. Moving.

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  14. With most…first time reading this. One of the best. See it every week at the Mayo. Going to give to a couple nurses who have always made me feel great. I think they will appreciate as well. Great find again Dave!!

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  15. worked on a hospice floor this whole summer and i learned so much from these people. my best memory was when i was leaving one man’s room after giving him a warm blanket and just talking to him even though he was in too much pain to talk back. when i was leaving his room i asked if there was anything else i could get him and he motioned for me to come next to him and when i did he grabbed my hand, shaking it he mouthed the words ‘thank you’. and the very next day he passed away. all i did for this man was take care of his basic needs and talk to him and keep him company, but sometimes it’s the little things people appreciate the most

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  16. When I used to work, I was the cranky one – getting cross with some of the staff who refused to acknowledge the very things mentioned in this poem. I’ve not come across this poem before, but thanks for sharing it. I’ll do the same now, on Facebook and Twitter, as it’s a most important message.

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  2. […] of people.  I found this on a blog I follow maintained by David Kanigan:  Lead.Learn.Live https://davidkanigan.com/2012/08/19/cranky-old-man/ […]

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