This is all my fault for not moving homes or cities, for not taking certain jobs or marrying certain men, for looking backward all the time when I should be looking forward. I dwell too much. I hold on to things I shouldn’t, to people I shouldn’t. If you don’t change, change will find you in its most unruly form. It will press down on your vulnerabilities until they squish out the edges. Life needs volunteers or else it will start calling on people at random.
― Sloane Crosley, Grief Is for People (MCD, February 27, 2024)
Book Review: A Dazzling Humorist Returns With a Deep Dive Into Loss. NY Times, Feb 24, 2024.
Preach, Sloane!
Yes!
I shared this exact quote when I read this book. I didn’t volunteer for any of the changes I’ve encountered since 2019. Now I feel validated that it was just “random”. Right?
Wrong. And who did you share this quote with?
Instagram & Facebook stories. Good to know you follow me as loyally as I do you.
It’s like drinking from a giant fire hose. At some point one has to decide if they are beyond their ingestion point.
You would know. Blog. Instagram. Facebook. Tumblr.
I’m going to say that the great majority of my life changes, have been of my own choosing – but some, happen because you do nothing, like not making a decision, is a decision in itself
That is so true Beth.
Dear Lord, she’s been reading my journal! 😝
Laughing. Mine too!
This hits all the nerves.
Thinking about my life, I know I initiated change when needed. And it has always surprised everyone. I will not sit and wait for life to happen. In my culture women are expected to just sit and be told what to do. Not me.
That being said, I was also volunteered when I didn’t choose it. A few times it felt like I was sacrificed.
It’s been a ride.
“In my culture women are expected to just sit and be told what to do. Not me.” Shocked! I would have never guessed! 🙂
Laughing…
Just in case you hadn’t noticed 🤭
Right!!!!
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