Monday morning, 5 a.m. The night before, wind gusts up to 60 mph, heavy rain, and a tornado set down a few miles away. Trees down. Thousands without power in Fairfield County. The Kanigan house? Silent. The lights burn, the furnace hums, Susan and Eric sleep. All is well.
I walk.
Cove Island Park. There’s no evidence of havoc on the beach. It is swept clean. No drift wood. No trash. No humans. The sand is firm underfoot. I leave faint shoe marks. I don’t look back.
I never look back.
It’s likely why the title of his book, No Time Like the Future, caught my attention. Michael J. Fox‘s new memoir, is pumping through my earbuds.
29 years old: Parkinson’s.
58 years old: Spinal cord surgery (unrelated to Parkinson’s) followed by long term rehab.
“I got grim,” he said in an interview in 2019. No shit.
I’m Canadian, like MJF, without the famous part. He was born 5 months earlier, and yet handed a deck of cards that I’m not sure I could ever play.
He’s written 3 other memoirs titled “Lucky Man“, “Always Looking Up: The Adventures of an Incurable Optimist” and “A Funny Thing Happens on the Way to the Future.” You get the picture. It’s almost as if he was built to take the blows.
He’s narrating this new book.
Shame, that’s what I feel, as I have to slow down the narration speed on Audible to catch each word. Most with Parkinson’s speak slowly, but not MJF. He speaks rapidly, with certain words trailing off at the end of certain sentences. Actor. Married, 30 years. Father. Prolific fundraiser for Parkinson’s. Writer. Narrator of his own books. Super Man.
I walk, and I listen.
MJF and his 110 pound “Great Dane-ish” dog Gus, go for morning walks in Central Park. For his 54th birthday present, his wife bought him a bench in Central Park which was inscribed “Dedicated to Mike Fox and Gus, True New Yorkers.”
MJF continues: “Optimism has always been the norm for me. But perhaps with age, or through the rigors of this experience, I now find it easier to drift into melancholy; to lose my enthusiasm for the task at hand. On this day, I’m relieved that my walk in the park […] provides an antidote.”
This hits me as I make my way down the beach.
That’s what I feel.
And I drift back, looking back. Man, who doesn’t look back, looks back, and is swamped with the memory.
This same beach in 2013. We walked. Zeke bounding ahead of me and then sauntering back. Gulls scurrying away. His paws kicking up sand and leaving their impression, millions of waves since then leaving no trace of him, or that we were here.
But I remember.
Oh, I remember.
Notes: Video: Zeke @ Dec 28, 2013. Related Posts: Zeke
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Oh, my heart. Zeke is amazing. Great memories. xo
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Yes Darlene. Yes. Thanks.
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Beauty. In every word. Every step. Every image.
And every memory. And Zeke.
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Thank you Louise. Yes.
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Such a beautiful post, David. Thanks for sharing your walk with us and a little of MJF and Zeke.
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Thank you Sharon. Appreciate it.
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I’ve read his two other books and will be getting this one, too. He is such an inspiration and I love it when he said: “I’m out of the lemonade business.” He’s allowed a cranky moment just like the rest of us.
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Oh crap! I hit reply before saying what a beauty your Zeke was. Such a great video, ending with him looking up at you.
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It was. Thanks Dale!
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He is an inspiration.
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Have always admired MJF and his steadfast refusal to lapse into self-pity or recrimination. Just keep marching forward, making the best of things. Not at all certain I could exhibit the same strength in those circumstances. And this clip of Zeke is lovely. He was a beautiful boy, pal, and a wonderful companion. Oh how I wish you would open your heart and home to another. Lola is lying here snoring as I type this…no sweeter sound exists…
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Awww. I want my Lola!
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You NEED your own Lola, pal! Have you considered adopting an older dog from a shelter, a pal who knows the ropes and is looking for a buddy to share his/her golden years. Some rescues specialize in ‘seniors.’ Just a thought. There’s just nothing like the love and companionship of a dog, as you well know…..
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Hmmmmmmm
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For example, look at Sam just down the road in Norwalk. Not a senior, admittedly, but cute as a button and a big fan of walks…😁
https://www.adoptapet.com/pet/29909728-norwalk-connecticut-pit-bull-terrier-mix
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OMG. Look at that face. You are terrible!!!
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Bwaaaahhaaaa
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Wow. Now I’ll be thinking about him all night.
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He IS adorable, isn’t he?
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Yes. But. Just flipped link to Boss. Response was quick. No pit bulls.
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😢
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At the risk of causing a family fight….
https://www.adoptapet.com/pet/29852886-sarasota-florida-vizsla
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OMG. Laime was hit by a car!
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I know… 😢 She sounds like a sweet girl,though…
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Hmmm mm. 8 years old. Hit by car. Luv her but we don’t run a rehab center here…
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MJF is remarkable. It’s okay to look back – those memories keep us in touch with our feelings and what has impacted us – just don’t turn around. We can only go forward in life. What a lovely boy Zeke was 🙏
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He is remarkable Val. To have his strength….
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Wondering … is it strength or courage? Strength gives us the will to push us through adversity. Courage encourages us to rise above and embrace beyond.
💛
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Now you have me thinking Val….
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Strength comes from the head. Courage comes from the heart.
I shared a poem about this way back when … it has stuck with me.
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If that’s the case, I need more head and heart. 🙂
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My dad used to say: When you don’t know how to react, always make sure that your heart is soft when your head is hard.
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Your Dad was brilliant Kiki.
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He was, if he had had the possibility to go to a Uni (fat luck, he grew up in Germany and ‘they’ wanted him to spy for G during WWII and more such nonsense) he probably would have become a force to reckon with…. not only for his family 😉
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Amazing
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Great inspirational post about a great man, MJF! Thanks, Dave!
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Thanks Vera. He is.
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a heart never forgets
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The body remembers, the bones remember, the joints remember, even the little finger remembers. Memory is lodged in pictures and feelings in the cells themselves. Like a sponge filled with water, anywhere the flesh is pressed, wrung, even touched lightly, a memory may flow out in a stream.
~ Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype (Published November 27th 1996 by Ballantine Books, first published 1992)
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OMG. Here comes the walking encyclopedia of worthwhile quotes and citations! Man, you are AMAZING.
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Laughing!
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Still laughing
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Too many words – and too many memories. My dad had Parkinson’s and Levy body dementia just to put a fine point on the challenges he faced. Not head on, like MJF, but with trepidation and uncertainty. And yet, my memories of him, my true North Star, reflect none of that hesitation and fear. Boundless humor, unfailing curiosity and on more than one occasion the smartest guy in the room. I love that MJF and Gus brought you back to you and Zeke – proving of course that you do look back, sometimes in spite of yourself.
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What strength your Father had Mimi. So admirable.
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We never forget our four-legged friends.
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We don’t.
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Don’t you dare feel sorry for yourself. You had a beautiful dog and you don’t have Parkinson’s. And yet, we want all the good things forever and the bad things never. Maybe we’re asking too much, but we continue to strive for the best we can get out of this life. That’s what MJF is doing, and I know that’s what you’re doing. It’s just that we are each dealt a different hand and we need to make the best of it, each in our own way.
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That’s so true Anneli. Thank you.
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It’s the loving kind, but tears did fall. Zeke, Michael, your writing, all of it. Blessings to you, David!
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Thank you Debra!
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Optimism is over-rated.
Yes, it’s charming and heartwarming and sells books — and I admire it and try to be optimistic as well.
But one of the qualities I most value in Canadians (as I am as well) is our generally gloomier outlook. Americans place a lot of value on being POSITIVE all the time — which allows very little room to be sad, to grieve, to be scared, to let other people know you’re actually worn out.
He is not “cranky” but living with a very difficult disease with as much grace as he can still muster. If he now has less of it, I appreciate his candor.
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Grace. That’s the word for him. You’ve captured it.
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Thanks….It is a much under-rated quality.
Buddhists say — pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
That sounds banal and dismissive but I think it’s not. So so so much of our “misery” is a choice we make, and keep making, when there is a door to that cage.
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I agree. Yet, It’s hard for me to agree as I have been fortunate not to have suffered as he has/does or others that suffer chronic pain. I am in awe of those that can conduct themselves with such grace.
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It’s really really tiring and affects your mood and outlook. It takes a lot of effort and self-control not to take out your (very real and justifiable) frustration, pain and physical exhaustion on others. Talk about emotional labor.
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Now I can definitely see me doing that. 😉
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I lived with really excruciating left hip pain for a few years before getting it replaced in 2012. Even my facial expression changed the next day….pain free at last.
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Good for you!
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Thank you for sharing MJF and Zeke…too many tears of love to articulate.
What do we love? Moving ahead into life. Thank you for bringing that home!
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Yes! So true. Thanks Valerie.
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Just a walking, no one can say this. A walking in thoughts, in memories… and there are many bridges that conneting us too… in our thoughts or in our memories… You are expressing so beautifully dear Dave, your writing, as if you are here and talking… I love to read you. Of course I remember too Zeke, lovely adorable friend… they have never been forgotten. Thank you, you are a friend walking with me too in this blogging world. Love, nia
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Thank you Nia. You are so kind. We are friends walking together in this blogging world. Beautifully stated.
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So Dave, you will have your birthday in NOvember and you’ll be one yr short of the big six O….. happy birthday, anyway.
And here a treat you might or might not have read:
https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2020/nov/21/michael-j-fox-every-step-now-is-a-frigging-math-problem-so-i-take-it-slow
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OMG. Thanks for sharing that age nugget with everyone!!
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🙊 Am I the only one able to see 🙈and combine the facts? Don’t forget, it was you telling the story. 🙉 I DO pay attention! If I can’t, I don’t comment. Happy b’day 🍁
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Oh. You pay attention. Zero doubt about THAT!!!!
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And thanks for link!
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I only could watch the short but heart-warming and life-affirming video of Zeke on the computer. He was a super-duper-beauty and those soulful eyes went and looked right into my deepest soul. Dave we both, you and I, desperately need our dog – God help us, we’ve got to have one!
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Laughing. We do Kiki. We do.
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