If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it. There is heat in freezing, be a testament.

I first watched this video 2 weeks ago.  I found it a bit weird. (OK, maybe a lot wierd.)  A bit quirky.  Yet, I couldn’t shake it from my mind.  I went back once.  Then twice.  On to 4, 5, 6 times.  Perhaps it was the cadence of her voice.  Perhaps it was her accent.  (Purely Canadian.)  Should I share?  Hmmmm.  I’ll be the weird-non-manly man sharing his bizarre poetry video.  I checked the number of views: 4.2 million and counting. (Wow!)  So, I’m not alone.  Runway is clear.  OK for me to share.  Tanya Davis – BRAVO!

Tanya Davis
If you are at first lonely, be patient.

If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren’t okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find it’s fine to be alone once you’re embracing it.

We can start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library, where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books; you’re not supposed to talk much anyway so it’s safe there.

There is also the gym, if you’re shy, you can hang out with yourself and mirrors, you can put headphones in.

Then there’s public transportation, because we all gotta go places.

And there’s prayer and mediation, no one will think less if your hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.

Start simple. Things you may have previously avoided based on your avoid being alone principles.

The lunch counter, where you will be surrounded by “chow downers”, employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town, and they, like you, will be alone.

Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.

When you are comfortable with “eat lunch and run”, take yourself out for dinner; a restaurant with linen and Silverware. You’re no less an intriguing a person when you are eating solo desert and cleaning the whip cream from the dish with your finger. In fact, some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.

Go to the movies. Where it’s dark and soothing, alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.

And then take yourself out dancing, to a club where no one knows you, stand on the outside of the floor until the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one’s watching because they’re probably not. And if they are, assume it is with best human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats, is after-all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you’re sweating. And beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things. Down your back, like a book of blessings.

Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you. Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, they are always statues to talk to, and benches made for sitting gives strangers a shared existence if only for a minute, and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversation you get in by sitting alone on benches, might of never happened had you not been there by yourself.

Society is afraid of alone though. Like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements. Like people must have problems if after awhile nobody is dating them.

But lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless, and lonely is healing if you make it.

You can stand swathed by groups and mobs or hands with your partner, look both further and farther in the endless quest for company.

But no one is in your head. And by the time you translate your thoughts an essence of them maybe lost or perhaps it is just kept. Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those “sappy slogans” from pre-school over to high school groaning, we’re tokens for holding the lonely at bay.

Cause if you’re happy in your head, then solitude is blessed, and alone is okay.

It’s okay if no one believes like you, all experience is unique, no one has the same synapses, can’t think like you, for this be relieved, keeps things interesting, life’s magic things in reach, and it doesn’t mean you aren’t connected, and the community is not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it.

Take silence and respect it.

If you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it, if your family doesn’t get you or a religious sect is not meant for you, don’t obsess about it.

You could be in an instant surrounded if you need it.

If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it.

There is heat in freezing, be a testament.

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Source: Poem Lyrics

Comments

  1. I like this idea very much. Being alone doesn’t mean that you don’t have any friends or something is wrong with you but that you are able to be alone without getting frustrated or bored. Many people cannot do anything alone and when nobody of their friends has time for them they sit alone at home not knowing what to do with themselves. She gives great tips how to start trying to do things alone and I think to be able to go dancing alone or having dinner in a restaurant doesn’t make you forget about the rest of the world but makes you feel more secure and confident. Afterwards you probably cherish the company of others more! Thanks for sharing really like it very much! http://madrilicious.com

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  2. So glad you shared this!

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  3. this is wonderful, david. thanks for sharing; it made my soul sing. x

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  4. thank you thank you cannot hold LIKE in myhand

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  5. Oh how I love the message in this post. It says everything I am and I believe but could not articulate. This is a keeper for future reading. Thank you for making my day.

    BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!

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  6. I don’t find that being alone and being lonely are anything near the same thing. I learn so much about what I really want in my life when I spend time alone. Beautiful video!

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  7. “Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you. Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, they are always statues to talk to, and benches made for sitting gives strangers a shared existence if only for a minute, and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversation you get in by sitting alone on benches, might of never happened had you not been there by yourself.” These steps have gotten me through lonely times over and over and over–and shot me off into exciting new directions, almost very time!

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  8. It is good.
    She will love again one day.
    Like I did,
    We all can.
    Around the corner, lies magic waiting to touch you.

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  9. thank you. this is exactly what I need today.

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  10. Reblogged this on MyFutureBlueCat and commented:
    Thanks for sharing this!

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  11. Reblogged this on My Life in my 60's.

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  12. Very deep ! I loved it. Sometimes you need to forget what how you feel, remember what you deserve…

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  13. ‘Take silence and respect it.’ I loved this post.

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  14. So here it is! 😀 It’s a relief to know I wasn’t losing my memory, this was before I got myself on WordPress. I’m pretty good at remembering the videos I’ve seen and where they were from, but I do wonder just how much capacity my brain will have to sort all of that – after a few thousand videos have passed my eyes, they might just all melt into one great video experience! 🙂

    And it is quirky – but I love quirky!!! Must be because I’m English, there’s a lot quirkiness and weirdness over here you know! 😉

    I love her accent, so silky smooth (it could sell chocolate – or anything!) and like you’ve indicated here, the cadence of her voice may well have something to do with why this is so attractive – she is quite wonderful! 😀

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