Everywhere you look these days you see something on how to be happy — how to manifest abundance, desires and success, find your bliss. […]
Whatever happened to experiencing the grace of melancholy, which requires reflection: a sort of mental steeping, like tea? What if all this cheerful advice only makes you feel inadequate? What if you were born morose?
Melancholy, distinguished from grief, is not caused by events, like losing your job, the passing of beloved pets, your miscarriages or health problems. Nor does it vanish when you receive excellent news, like a big film star optioning your novel, or being invited to an all-expenses-paid trip to Venice for the Biennale.
Melancholy is more … ephemeral.
It visits you like a mist, a vapor, a fog. It is generally uninvited. And as some people are born into royalty, wealth and prestige, others inherit a disposition for sadness. […]
Should melancholy descend, you may as well welcome it, wear your finest lounging outfit; give it your finest fainting couch or chaise to lounge in, or that hammock stretched between two elm trees. Let it settle in.
[…]
I want moonlight.
~ Laren Stover, A Case For Melancholy
Credits: Photo via Sweet Senderipity
Wise words – you can’t appreciate the happy without the sad.
LikeLiked by 2 people
(very) wise. Agree Darlene. I clipped a small part of his essay. More wisdom shines in the full piece.
LikeLike
Excellent writing. She certainly listened to her father. Thanks for the share, David.
LikeLiked by 1 person
She has Helen. Thanks.
LikeLike
There is yearning and understanding in melancholy. It is more real than the pursuit of something we don’t have in this moment.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Beautiful stated Val. I had to think about your POV for several moments.
LikeLiked by 1 person
There is something peaceful about melancholy —- and if it is like moonlight – then there is hope in it… Wonderful concept. Thank you.
LikeLiked by 1 person
It is…I agree.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I see melancholy as a prelude to necessary contemplative periods which allow one (me) to deal with the world and all those people out there. Melancholia is my personal warning that I need solitary time. If it can be accompanied by moonlight, the transition to a kind of steeling contentment (ready for socializing without resentment) is all the more attractive.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Patrice, you are (so) much further along in figuring out the beauty of melancholy. I need to be cautious about misinterpreting the period and letting it slide me down (below melancholy). Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Your approach is inspirational.
LikeLike
Well…I think…melancholy perhaps becomes a bigger part of who we are as we become older. Seems that way anyway. It’s learning to live with this new becoming that is definitely a challenge…especially since some of us can’t just go lie in a hammock in our best lounging outfits. Melancholy would become my new best friend if someone would let me do all of that.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I’ve read this a few times Carol, last night and again tonight. There is a lot of wisdom here. And I wish that someone (me) would let me do that to. Thanks for sharing. Swept me away here.
LikeLiked by 1 person
the moon always arrives before the sun returns.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Now, that, is wisdom.
LikeLike
This is an amazing post…
LikeLiked by 1 person
Rajiv, thank you. I loved her essay too…
LikeLike
An attack of the vapors….indeed. Smart woman.
LikeLiked by 1 person
So smart…and a way with words. Magic.
LikeLike
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” Mary Oliver
LikeLiked by 2 people
Wow, great. Thanks for sharing Van.
LikeLiked by 1 person
As others have noted, much wisdom here. I’ve been dippin’ my toes in the melancholy pool a bit today as a matter of fact. It’s been a cold, rainy day here, bringing a chill that settles in the bones, and I’ve let my mood mirror Mother Nature’s. It felt good. Don’t feel the need to dwell in this state indefinitely, but sometimes there’s a sense of coming back to oneself in just ‘riding the wave,’ like striking a tuning fork and allowing the sound to resonate.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Wonderful. Full stop.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I love what you clipped, and the whole piece paints a slightly different picture. Melancholy as a temperament is another genetic gift that keeps on giving. As for perfume that matches the mood, I have a whole collection of incense for just that purpose.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Smiling. Good!
LikeLike
fascinating post. Val’s comment about yearning and understanding really resonated with me. I find the concept of ‘Bliss’ or a perpetual state of Happiness unrealistic. Whereas, a mindset of contentedness is for me, a better pathway. Another good post to ponder. 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
I agree Debi. Contentedness is bliss for me…
LikeLiked by 1 person