You can only control three things…

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You only directly control three things in the entire world. Interestingly, none of these are other people. You are in charge of your thoughts, your words, and your actions. That’s it. Most of us neglect these three key items, however. Instead we direct our precious, limited energy on thinking and talking about how others should be different. This is fruitless and even lazy. As long as I’m focused on what’s wrong with you, I don’t need to pay any attention to improving me. Focus on you. Rather than hoping you can mysteriously change the fundamental personality traits of those around you, direct your energy on perfecting your own sweet self.

Devora Zack, CEO of Only Connect Consulting


Source: Fast Company via John E. Smith @ Strategic Learner.  Image: Thank you madamescherzo via popculturebuzz

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  1. Reblogged this on naomikko and commented:
    Si, si, si…

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  2. Sometimes our actions turned off the self-control button. 🙂

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  3. So true.

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  4. Three very hard things to control too. Sometimes trying to control other people is easier….

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  5. Yes, well — having worked in psychiatry, I tend to give myself a worse battering than others. I do spend a lot of time psychoanalysing others and reading all sorts of stuff into their body language, but, unless someone has been really foul to me, I don’t waste my breath voicing my observations. Some of their behaviours do crop up in my writing, although no character is based totally on a real person. Composite characters, that’s the one 😉

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    • There’s no doubt we give ourselves a worse battering than others. I’m squarely with you on this Sarah. Insightful comment. I need to get better (much) on the “wasting my breath” part. And love “composite characters.” Beautiful. As always, thanks for dropping by.

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  6. So I guess we shouldn’t focus on our children to help them become better individuals?

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  7. Mesmerized by the swing …

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  8. Fabulous post, David. 🙂 Have a great day.

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  9. Alex Jones says:

    Well said. The other big waster is worrying about and trying to win approval from others.

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  10. Absolutely and almost impossible to teach and even harder to learn.

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  11. This literally hit home as I read it to my daughter 🙂 Thx

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  12. Great post, David!! Couldn’t agree more!!

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  13. Reblogged this on MINDFUL DIARY and commented:
    You can control only three things and none of these are other people! Love this post! From always inspiring David Kaningan.

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  14. True words! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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  15. Such a simple thing and yet most difficult to work on ourselves first and most importantly.

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  16. Reblogged this on Donkey Whisperer Farm Blog.

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  17. Reblogged this on Waiting for the Karma Truck and commented:
    I kept returning to this post while we were away – it resonates with me big time. Words worth heeding.

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  18. Reblogged this – it’s been on my mind since I first read it..

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  19. Thank you David.

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  20. Reblogged this on I LOVE MY DISEASE!.

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