Yes! More new research moving in my direction. If I live long enough, all my flaws are sure to be corrected. I’m cursed with a short-fuse genetic construct. It has created any number of personal and professional “situations.” So, when I came across this recent post from PSYBLOG: The Upside of Anger – Six Psychological Benefits of Getting Mad – I decided to cut myself just a bit of slack as this may just be a blessing (when used in appropriate situations and in moderation). I was particularly surprised at Benefit #2 (Research finds that Angry people more optimistic). Here’s are few excerpts from the post:
Here are the 6 benefits:
- Anger is a motivating force (“we want it more when we’re angry” – can make you feel strong and powerful and help push you on to get what you want in face of problems and barriers)
- Angry people are more optimistic (Angry and happy people tend to be more optimistic. In contrast those who fear were more pessimistic about the future)
- Anger can benefit relationships (Hiding anger in intimate relationships can be detrimental. Anger if justifiable and aimed at finding a solution rather than venting can benefit & strengthen relationships)
- Anger provides self-insight (Anger provides insights to own faults which can motivate self-change and/or positive outcome)
- Anger Reduces Violence (Although anger often precedes physical violence, it can also reduce violence as it’s a strong social signal that a situation needs to be resolved. The other party is motivated to try to placate the angry party)
- Anger as a Negotiation Strategy (Can be legitimate way to get what you want and negotiation participants made larger concessions and few demands of an angry person)
…Anger can reduce violence, benefit relationships, promote optimism and be a useful motivating force, but it can just as easily be destructive..
…Used right, anger can be a handy tool. But use with caution as people find anger the most difficult of all the emotions to control.
You’re still bipolar…don’t try and kid yourself 😉
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I can always count on my offspring to hit me publicly. Honey, your day is coming. Love, Dad
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Gotta love the children 😉
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Isn’t that the truth. 🙂
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Thank you for sharing this article. I have also done research on anger. Anger can be healthy, I agree. Anger often tells us that something is wrong. Similar to putting your hand on a hot stove and getting burned because you do not feel the heat, we need anger to motivate us to make a change, otherwise we may get burned. Where we need to be careful is when current events remind us of the past on a conscious or unconscious level causing us to over react. Anger is a good thing, but it is what we do with the anger that is important. Very good post. Thanks
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I don’t think anger is as positive an emotion as this study says. I think people should learn to control it. I agree with Kristen when she says what we do with the anger is important. I have never felt good when I lashed out in anger. It always comes back to bite me.
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Anger is complicated. It is not healthy to repress it, but prolonged bitterness and resentment kills mind, body, spirit. Getting it out is healthy if done in a healthy way. Explosive blow ups are detrimental to all involved.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Undoubtedly a complicated emotion. I’ll agree with both of you and be Switzerland (or in my case Canada)…
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Your post has angered me, and I am grateful to you for that. I feel much better now.
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Laughing. Next post in your honor – – benefits of a quick wit!
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Reblogged this on MyDestiny2011 and commented:
I need this. Thank you David
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Thank you.
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Free at Last!
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Love the comments, love the story!!
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Very interesting!
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That image looks exactly like me when I’m pissed!
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Now that I look at your photo and the image, it looks exactly like you!
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Recognizing the emotion of anger when one feels it can be a good thing; articulating that anger without limits can be a really bad thing. My husband (who also inherited a short-temper gene which was a lot of fun to live with when the boys were teenagers – not), used to be somewhat subdued by the following question and comments – “Is this going to matter to you in five years? If it is, I’m right there with you, but if you’re not going even going to remember this as an upsetting, offensive moment in time, then maybe you need to re-think what you’re all pissed off about”. Yes, at those times he got angry with me too..:-)
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I’m glad you weren’t around to ask me these questions. My responses would have been frightening five years ago. I’m wearing big boy pants now (sometimes). But I do see a calm response to wild man would have a calming effect (affect?)
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I recently lost my temper with someone who’d been goading me for eight years and not heeding my warning shots. My explosion so terrified her, she’s being really nice to me ever since.
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8 years of torment? 8 years you kept it in check and didn’t unload! Wow. Sarah, you poster child for either Mother Theresa or some internal volcanic eruption! And laughed about the been “really nice to me ever since” part. Maybe next time you cut the 8 year cycle time down. 🙂
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for every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness – ralph waldo emerson
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Holy Cow. Emerson. Deep! Love it!
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But being around an angry person who is angry about alot of things several times per wk., is not healthy.
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How I missed this one yesterday I don’t know. My daughter and I express anger a lot. Some people don’t like that. We aren’t mean and hateful there are just many things that anger us. I do not like it when people tell me that I should not express my anger, that is just plain stupid. No we aren’t always yelling and screaming and picking fights but if you live in this world there is a lot to cause anger. Some people were raised to never say anything negative which I think is insane and fake. I am usually suspicious of someone who is always smiling and happy never seems to get mad. Are they made from cardboard? Don’t they have any emotions? Are they dead inside? Let me see some passion.When I talk of anger I mean justified anger not grumpy mean all the time going to kill someone anger.
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I smiled reading this. Thanks for sharing! I happen to believe in what you say.
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This just proves once again, the verse that says” There is a time and a season for all things”–including anger properly utilized. Thanks for these insights!
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Thanks, it made me less guilty.
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Me too! 🙂
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Thanks for sharing…
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