Running. With Bro.

~ Live & Learn

I’m sitting in his chair, a padded wheel chair at the side of his bed at the Rehab Center.

He’s sitting up on his bed, but bent over, trying to catch his breath.

Oxygen is flowing from a tank down a tube through his Trach.

My eyes are never far from his heart rate monitor.

It’s a lime green digital read out, being fed stats through a line connected to his index finger.

120.
122.
118.
123

A heart rate equal to a light jog.

Not a 10 min, or 15 min, or 30 min jog.

A 24 x 7 jog.

Running. Running. Running.

He coughs, interrupting the signal. The machine flashes yellow alerts, and fires a piercing alarm to the Nurse’s station.

Then silence.

Next morning, on a treadmill in a windowless gym at Marriott Courtyard in Phoenix, I’m running. I’m flicking my wrist over, and over and over again, checking my heart beat on my Apple Watch.

135
125
140
133
147

Next week, on a treadmill in a Dallas hotel gym. I’m flicking, and flicking and flicking my wrist, checking the Apple Watch read out:

140
125
135
130
137

I had asked him, “what’s pushing on your heart beat.”  He sends me a text (can’t speak with breathing apparatus in his Trach).

“Condition of lungs require my lungs to work harder.”  And,  he says. (Long pause…) And, Anxiety.

I step out of the gym, having finished my workout.  And take a walk on a path circling the hotel.

I’m listening to an audio book narrated by Elizabeth Acevedo, the author, and a young poet. She reads a poem called “Miracles”:

God, if you’re a thing with ears:
please, please.

 

61 thoughts on “Running. With Bro.”

    2. Dale; isn’t that so?! Whenever a thought of something unpleasant creeps up, even before I’ve thought the thought, my heart races off like a priceless racehorse… Anxiety – our own worst enemy!

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  2. Will be thinking of you and your brother on my journey today. God hears us and answers our prayers. We don’t always get the answer we want, but God (at least the One that I believe in and pray to) knows our hearts. Watching someone we love suffer is a painful experience and often moves us to ask questions that we never thought to ask. Ask away and take care of yourself during this trying time. You are being a good brother.

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  4. This post broke my heart, twice – in 5′ – the first time when I read it and groped for some tissues, the 2nd when HH came to say bye (for his cardiologist’s appointment!) and asked why I was crying…. I put my hand on his heart and asked him: How’s your heart beat? Anxiety? (Isn’t it always there before a doctor’s appointment?). And I continued: I have to read you Dave’s blog post of today…. I read it as best as I could with tears running and throat choked up. We embraced and he left for his 40′ drive to the doctor.
    I’m not the sporty type, I don’t know any gym from the inside, I run only when I absolutely must and then catch my breath for the next 30′ – but my heart races too, in compassion, in sharing your love for bro, for sharing the pain, and I send a prayer up to God for him and his sis and you and all of you.
    HE/SHE doesn’t need ears, all prayers and calls are heard, and / but as Ray said so well: We don’t always (or rarely) get exactly what we want but we get what is in HIs plan. Of course, it’s not (or shouldn’t be) a one-way road, that we only scream to Him/Her when we are desperate. A large part of my prayers are Thank You’s for the protection of every day, of HH not having or causing an accident on his weekly travel of twice 700+km, for me, the one with bad eyesight, not to miss a step on a stair or slip on wet leaves, etc. etc. But as I said to you before: Praying for you folks isn’t going to hurt anybody, but it might just be the tiny nudge of HELP PLEASE to make the difference. So, know, your bro (in law?) and the family YOU ARE LOVED, AND THOUGHT OF, AND PRAYED FOR. All the best.

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  9. We all hear you…and your bro…and we care and send our love…So why would anyone assume that the creator of all would be a thing that may not hear? We all know anxiety…we’re all challenged to handle it. The anxiety makes or comes out of feeling separate from any loving creator. Dear David thank you for connecting us and making us less separate.

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  11. Oh David.

    I had to dry my tears before I could type.

    For me, it is the helplessness. The wanting to do something, anything to make someone else ‘all better’ and having to live with the helplessness of knowing – I am not that powerful. I cannot change their journey, where ever it leads. I can only walk with them, sit with them, be with them, however they need me.

    You are an amazing brother. You are being there with him in body and spirit so that he knows, he is not alone.

    That is a beautiful gift. That is love.

    I too am including my ‘please’ and sending much love and light to you both.

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  13. So sorry you’re having to go through such hardship, David…and even though every instance of such hardship is different, I’ve been there in my own way. I understand the ache in your own heart. I will be thinking of you and your brother.

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  20. We might struggle with the ‘why is this the way it is,’ but we need not ever struggle with the inner knowing that support and love accompanies it all. Sending hugs, healing, light, and love to you all. Cher xo

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  24. Dear David, sometimes “like” doesn’t mean that we like, I just want to say I am with you too my heart and my thouhgts, wishing your brother geet well soon. Love and Hugs, nia

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  27. Hi David, I read this when you posted it and meant to comment but it hit too close to home. Hope takes on many forms during these difficult times and if it’s not hope for an absolute cure than it can be hope for more time, quality of life. My loved one made it through, intact albeit worse for wear

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    1. Oops. Darn finger pressed send. Anyway, thinking of you and your bro and feeling hopeful. Wished I’d thought of exercising during my vigil. Toasted bagels and thrillers versus book club fare got me through. Best regards

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